Hey, Baby!

It's been quite a long time since I wrote my last post and on a comeback note, I wouldn't want to write a movie review, if you were assuming this to be one after reading the title.  

You could blame it to the rusty feel to my writing skills due to prolonged absence from the blogging world or the subject I am about to write here for the lame title. 

Happiness had no bounds for us, the happily married couple, and the families on both sides. With abundant hopes and excited feelings, we were expecting our first child into this world. It was only a few weeks ago that we both saw the wonderful images of the baby in the fetal monitor. Doctor was so happy in showing us the face, the limbs and other parts of the baby and explaining how healthy it was.

Photo credit: Google images

And last week, it was one of those regular visits to the doctor, this time on the beginning of her third and final trimester of her pregnancy. My wife was with the doctor and as usual, I was waiting in the dorm. A chill went down my spine as I was beckoned inside the scanning room, very unusual from the regular visits. I sensed something wrong. 

Much to my distress, the shocked doctor pointed out my attention towards the fetal monitor and went on to explicate the fetal demise of our baby in the womb. My wife grasped my hand tight, tears rolled out. The silence was so deafening at that very moment. It appeared like the world had come to an end, rudely.

I wouldn’t want to elaborate this post further and I think I can’t, even if I wished to. On this Mother’s day, I dedicate this post to my dear wife who has been through the toughest of the times and enduring the hardest of the pains.

Happy mother’s day to all the mothers in the world!

13th May 2015: Update: removed one image on a dear friend's request.

I Do!

Every man dreams about spending his life with an exceptional woman, with whom he shall share his soul, happiness, dreams, laments and every moment. Boundless joy and delight marks the occasion when these dreams come alive. September eighth, twenty twelve was the ecstatic day when I entered into a divine relationship of life, termed as marriage.

The moment when respected cleric questioned if I accepted Naziya as my wife, for the rest of my life, loud, clear and confident came the answer, Alhamdulillah, I Do. Never in words shall I be able to express my emotions at that instant. My contentment was endless, happiness abundant.

A few words for her!

Whenever I breathe, I remember you

In every breath, I feel the fragrance of you

Naive, is it the breath which keeps me alive?

Even before I breathe, I remember you!

Hunt for my life partner, officially, had begun around eight to ten months ago. Each time, clad in best of the fabric available, I set out for a formality which I hated the most. More than worse were the situations when I was asked to talk with prospective bride in front of a dozen people from those orthodox families. How on earth is it possible? I wonder how bad the girls would be cursing such situations.

My life was entirely different when I met Naziya during one such situation. It took less than a few seconds when I nodded my head in acceptance. The world around me was glittering gold (thanks to Naziya and the sunglasses I was wearing).

All these days I have been away from bloggers world. I hope I was missed (being optimistic here). I will try to read all your posts, very soon.

Hope to be a regular blogger soon. Thank you all.

Awards! Tags! Awards!

It has been a prodigious journey so far in the bloggers world. Little had I expected that this voyage will make me come across so many ingenious writers? I am glad to have discovered each of your blog space.

Abundant in talent, many recognize and appreciate imminent bloggers. I consider myself lucky to receive so many awards recently. Now it is my turn to accept and to pass it on.

Thank you:

Nagini: A Painter, voracious reader, a homemaker, a blogger. Her book reviews will make the books even more interesting. Thank you for honoring me with “Liebster blog award”.

Anupam: Versatile is the best word which will describe Anupam Patra. He writes about anything and everything. Current affairs, poetry, fiction, movies and the list will continue. I thank Anupam for awarding my second “Liebster blog award”.

Neha: Packed with passion and enthusiasm, Neha’s journal is an interesting blog. She will never fail to impress you with her witty posts. Thank you Neha for the double bonanza, an “awesome blogger” and one more “Liebster” 

Blue girl: I got this award out of the blue :). A new visitor on my blog, she honored me with one another “Liebster”. Thank you Blue girl.

Jaish: A compelling writer. She has got a Plenty of talent when it comes to narrating stories. Will keep readers glued to her blog with her enticing posts. Thank you for my first Tag Jaishree.

Liebster blog: The word Liebster is German, which translates to Dearest and also means Sweetest, Beloved, Kind, Pleasant, Cute etc.

Rules:
Rules for all the Awards are almost similar: To accept the award, one has to

• Mention seven or eleven facts about him/ her.
• Answer the questions if you are asked by the person who awarded you.
• Tag the person who awarded you
• Pass on the awards to other bloggers

Facts about me:

Even though I hesitate to admit, one lousy fact is that I am very lazy. I am great at procrastinating things (It took me more than a month to accept these awards, confirms it). So to display my laziness, I am providing a link to one of earlier posts which mention some of the facts about me. Please bear with me to click here and to read them, of-course.

Answers:
Here comes the tough part of this post. I hate exams for the same reason and many of you are getting me to do the same. Someone please help me.

Jaishree tagged me and has asked me to answer these many:

1) Is there any specific time of the day that you set aside for blogging?
Nope. I utilize my travel, to office, time to read other’s blogs.

2) Do you live to eat or eat to live? :)
It depends on the dish you are offering 

3) Name some movies you would never mind watching again and again
Anand, Cast away, Sharabi, Million dollar baby, behind enemy lines, a beautiful mind… list goes on Jaish.

4) Which is the best place you have been to on vacation?
Goa

5) If you are given an option of eradicating any one social evil in India which one would you pick and why?
I would love to see India free of all social evils. Has there been a day we haven’t read or heard about killings, rape’s, Blasts, Kidnaps? I want to see a day with peace.

6) Name one bad habit you have been trying to change
Bad habits and me? You must be kidding na? :) Procrastination
7) What’s your favorite cuisine and food items?
My mom cooks amazingly delicious Biriyani. So far that is my favorite.

8) Share something which a small kid said to you, the memory of which always brings a smile to your face
My nephew and I share a beautiful relation. I have many fond memories with him which never ceases to bring a smile on my face.

9) What was the scariest experience you had in life so far?
Receiving so many awards and the thought of facing so many tough questions 

10) When you are extremely confused about some decision what do you do?
I get confused, again :)

11) Which is your most favorite genre in blogging?
I like to be humorous. But I am not confined to any one genre. Hope to be versatile.

Huh… that was very tough Jaish.

Next is Anupam’s turn to trouble me :)

12] 'Checkered blue n white' or 'black'?
Checkered blue

13] Curtains or no curtains?
Curtains

14] Hardcover, paperback or ebooks?
Hardcover

15] What's your ambiance while writing?
Lonely

16] Do you plan to publish a novel?
Not yet.

17] Do you like to make a gift for your loved one or do you rather buy?
Make a gift, with love

18] Which is the most beautiful color according to you?
Sky looks so beautiful when it is blue.

19] What’s your mantra in life?
Forget past, Think of future.

20] Have you ever thought of becoming a soldier in your life?
Given a chance, I would love to serve Indian navy now (but they have age restrictions, I think)

21] Do you have stage fear?
Enormous

22] ‘Mickey mouse/ Aladin/Duck Tales’ or ‘ Shin Chan/ Doraemon/ Kitretsu’?
Mickey mouse 

To add to my misery, Neha pitches in now:

23. Have you ever fallen off your bed while sleeping?
Nope. But I did act like I fell  to avoid college for a few days

24. Do you still sleep with your teddy bear?
I never slept with one. (Had you imagined asking this question to a boy, Neha?)

25. Which celebrity do you have a crush on right now?
Sunny :) (You guessed it right)

26. Have you ever done something wild & crazy? If so, do tell.
Answer to the first question is an example. There are a lot lot more 

27. Your favorite super-hero?
Batman (Shaktiman gave a tough fight for this answer though)

28. Your favorite childhood cartoon character?
Tom & Jerry, even now :)

29. Your hobbies?
Writing, reading, collage

30. Your favorite Author?
Paul Coelho

31. Your favorite junk food?
Pani-poori (golgappe)

32. Your favorite music band?
Not specific. Fan of Kishore, Lata, Rafi, Mukesh. Adele & Enrique are also favorites.

33. Are my questions silly and stupid?
I like them :)

Now it is time to pass on these prestigious awards. Toughest job to do. Each and every blogger is, indeed, a worthy recipient. Unfortunately I have to name only a few.

Liebster award goes to:
Ajeya – The hours – My memoir

Amit sir – Safarnama

Deepak sir (For your many blogs)– Magiceye

Rohu – Solitude sublime

Rads – Blog-a-zine

Sujata – Conversations

Ghazala – Woman on the run

Sonia – Never ending thoughts

Usha – Sizzling Indian recipes

Mangala – The world’s my oyster

Anu – Joys of blogging

Awesome blogger award goes to:

Nabanita – Random thoughts

Sushma Harish

Privy trifles - Memoirs of me

Vaishali - Soul curry

Alcina - Afixxion addixt

Arun - Passion for movies

Tangy tomato twist

Divya Nambiar - Tipsy from the trip

Anjali Saini - The virtual life

Arti – My yatra diary

Bikram (i know you have answered many questions earlier Bik, please don't link them again..lol)- Me and my random thoughts

PS: Award winners can pick any of the 11 questions from the above and answer them or they can even chose to mention 7 facts about themselves. Choice is yours :) Request all to pass on these. Thank you.

I sweat

Photo credit: Mak

 I sweat I fret I struggle I earn

Staring at your luxury I yearn

Gods must have been very partial 

Why am I at distress and his denial?

  PS: During a recent trip to Kerala, we stopped over at a village for a cup of early morning tea. A church, nearby, caught my attention and I started clicking some photographs. Four elderly women were cleaning the streets next to the church. One of them asked me to take their photos, in Malayalam, which I eventually understood. This poem is dedicated to her.

An Affair!

 

Thoughtless to deeds of the realm, careless to the qualms they adored every moment precious.

Craving to be, always, in each other’s camaraderie, they had an incredible chemistry between them.  Seamless relationship is what they were bound with.

Obligated to create a novel existence, they have to say goodbye to each other. Goodbye to bachelorhood.

  

PS: Will miss it  :)

A Bull ride

The sun was gearing up to recommence his day at work. Chirping all along, birds winged out of their nests. Like wandering souls, I and VJ (Vijayananda SB) set out for an enthralling journey for the next two days on his red bull, a 350cc Royal Enfield. After initial hitches, synchronized with the swiftness of breeze, we were on our path to a serene place, Coorg. Better known as Kodagu, it is one among many attractive geographical locations in Karnataka.

Route for two wheelers: Bangalore – Mysore – Hunsur – Gonikoppa – Ponnampet – Kutta – Sreemangala (homestay). Two wheelers are not allowed inside the forest range. It takes 40 more kms to reach Nagarhole via this route.

Route for four wheelers: Bangalore – Mysore – Hunsur – Nagarhole – Sreemangala (homestay). No vehicles will be allowed after 5:15 PM.

Our first break was at Maddur to end our overnight fast. Crispy Masala Dosa and Maddur vada was the common preference for our platter. From here, smooth roads greeted us all the way till we reached Hunsur. Next stretch of about 40 kms, till Gonikoppa, was rough & bumpy. It was tough for me, the pillion rider. VJ, please add more cushion on your bull.

Ten of our friends who had reached Coorg a night earlier were waiting for our arrival at a hotel near Sreemangala. We had booked our accommodation at pristine homestay, 2 kms from here. It was an hour past noon as we finished our lunch and headed towards Nagarhole National park.

Known for its numerous streams, dense forest, valleys and waterfalls, it is also declared as one of the several tiger reserves. Indian bison and Elephants are highly populated in this region. We considered ourselves lucky to have spotted many elephants and a few bisons, if not the tigers. Safari timings: 6 AM to 8 AM and 3 PM to 5 PM.

Nagarhole

Bonfire music dance and delicious dinner followed by a lengthy chat was the order of the night. Around midnight we allowed angels of sleep take over our tired souls. Next morning we were to visit Irupu falls.

Irupu falls/ Tea estate

Beautifully maintained by forest department and also the temple trust, Irupu is a fascinating place. A small trail leads to the concrete steps which will take us to the water fall. As we saw a thin layer of gushing water hitting the ground, a sense of joy prevailed. In no time both of us stripped to bare minimum clothes to let biting cold water to peck our face and then our entire figure. I don’t have enough words to express the joy I had at that very moment. Marvelous!

Little did we know that our enthusiastic expedition of Irupu would be cramped by unpleasant episodes of ignorance? We had committed two sins, please note sins, while we entered Irupu premises. First, we had violated the visitor timings. And the major of the two, we had parked our bull in extremely dangerous parking lot, that is the dense forests. It was only then I realized that ignorance is bliss. We ignored these two facts and experienced bliss. Now it was time to repent. We were made to pay a fine of 500 rupees and let go. Apart from the fine we were looked at as aliens by the kids who lived in the surroundings. Feels good :-)

Our next destination was a lone tea estate in the coffee dominated area. After taking some photographs it was time for us to head back. I believe pursuit is always longer. This was apparent while returning since we took lesser time. Clock ticked fifteen minutes past six when VJ smiled and said it was a nice time.

Intimacy in 55 words



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Clasped hands, gasping breath, moist lips and eyes filled with desire they were about to relish their wild fantasy. Embraced in eternal bliss they sensed, for instance, a paradise. They endured intimacy like never before.

No evil could dare to separate those fervent souls but the harsh tone of alarm which crushed his dream, often. 



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PS: My foray into the world of 55 word stories. Enlighten me with your criticism or Laud with acclaim. I thank you.

PPS: I hate alarms.

(PS and PPS is one more 55 words story I guess…lol)

Humane - Gentle: Part 4

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It had been a while since i wrote anything in sequel to my earlier posts with the title Gentle. It is all about the wonderful gestures of humble people characterized by sympathy, by compassion, by the tenderness towards others. You can read my earlier ones here: Part three, Part two and Part one.

Traffic snarls can, and will, at times, leave your arse numb, while sitting in your car or on your bike. It was around eight o'clock when i was returning home. As always the roads were crowded. Patience is the key to peace while you are out on the road either driving or riding. The other way is to swear. Most people stick to the later, even me.

A car in front of me had slowed down on it's pace at a crossroad. The person at the driver's seat handed a few coins to the traffic policeman at vigil. I was wondering at the predicament of that public servant. Was he accepting birbe? That too A FEW COINS.

A few seconds later i realised that all policemen might not be corrupt. Some are gentlemen. That person in the car must be a philanthropist. He gave those few coins to the policemen to hand it over to a beggar, a beggar who was not fake, a beggar who was stricken by misfortune. The gentleman in the khaki & white uniform did oblige, walked a few yards to help the helpless.



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It is these kind of people, with a deep feeling of sorrow and a strong desire to alleviate the suffering, uphold the humane gestures.

Be gentle be humane.

First Night !

It is the most awaited day; err the most eagerly WAITED NIGHT in every young, ENERGETIC, ENTHUSIASTIC boys and equally eager girls' life. Agree? Nevertheless if they had chosen to overcome the eagerness even before stepping into a wedlock, it happens to be everyone's dream to live that night once for the first time before doing so forever thereafter.

Many weave their dreams to indulge in pleasure & utmost intimacy with their life partners. It is the night when your body & soul unite into one relationship, a divine relationship.

My obsession towards attending weddings, especially friend's weddings, took me to one of the most beautiful historical metropolitan Hyderabad. The grandeur Nizam's had spent better part of lives here. Language doesn't hold any barrier between the local residents and the adaptable visitors. Most of the people speak Urdu which helps travelers, only if they know Hindi. Telugu is its native language.


Charminar

Known for its rich cultural heritage, wedding ceremonies are wroth attending in this city. Contrasting to other places, most of the rituals begin in the evening. It was around ten in the night when NIKAH (main ritual of wedding among Muslims is called as Nikah) was performed. People who had gathered wished the Bridegroom.

Wedding hall

For enthusiasts like me, who often visit the weddings, with a whole and sole intention of looking at beautiful girls, it was disappointing. Like many Muslim weddings, this one too had separate seating arrangements for men and the gorgeous women. So sad na?

It was already midnight when we went for dinner along with bridegroom. Kanyadaan (sending off of Bride) was at around two in the morning. All the while only one thing was going on in my mind, and I am sure even you must be thinking of it by now, that when is the FIRST NIGHT going to happen?

My dear lord it was already three in the morning and yet the new couple was still at the function hall, Greeting with smile at the guests. I can never imagine and I will never even think of getting married in the night.

This was the time to be in each other’s arms but not hugging the guests. It was the time to be caressing each other rather than accepting gifts. It was the time to indulge in each other’s love but they were far from doing any of that. They had to wait for one more day to enjoy their FIRST NIGHT. I pity.

I couldn’t stop myself laughing at the mere thought of a song “suhaag raat hai ghoonghat uthaa raha hoon mai…simat rahi hai tu sharmaake apni baahon me”. My friend had to tweak the lyrics a little “suhaag DIN hai ghoonghat uthaa raha hoon mai”.

I had heard about one of my friend getting a muhoortham (auspicious time) after twelve after he got married for his first night. I have no words. For those who believe that weddings are not all about physical intimacy, a healthy relationship does depend on it.

PS: For those of you who expected more after reading the title, I apologize. :-)