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Sunday, May 27, 2012

First Night !

It is the most awaited day; err the most eagerly WAITED NIGHT in every young, ENERGETIC, ENTHUSIASTIC boys and equally eager girls' life. Agree? Nevertheless if they had chosen to overcome the eagerness even before stepping into a wedlock, it happens to be everyone's dream to live that night once for the first time before doing so forever thereafter.

Many weave their dreams to indulge in pleasure & utmost intimacy with their life partners. It is the night when your body & soul unite into one relationship, a divine relationship.

My obsession towards attending weddings, especially friend's weddings, took me to one of the most beautiful historical metropolitan Hyderabad. The grandeur Nizam's had spent better part of lives here. Language doesn't hold any barrier between the local residents and the adaptable visitors. Most of the people speak Urdu which helps travelers, only if they know Hindi. Telugu is its native language.

Charminar

Known for its rich cultural heritage, wedding ceremonies are wroth attending in this city. Contrasting to other places, most of the rituals begin in the evening. It was around ten in the night when NIKAH (main ritual of wedding among Muslims is called as Nikah) was performed. People who had gathered wished the Bridegroom.
Wedding hall
For enthusiasts like me, who often visit the weddings, with a whole and sole intention of looking at beautiful girls, it was disappointing. Like many Muslim weddings, this one too had separate seating arrangements for men and the gorgeous women. So sad na?

It was already midnight when we went for dinner along with bridegroom. Kanyadaan (sending off of Bride) was at around two in the morning. All the while only one thing was going on in my mind, and I am sure even you must be thinking of it by now, that when is the FIRST NIGHT going to happen?

My dear lord it was already three in the morning and yet the new couple was still at the function hall, Greeting with smile at the guests. I can never imagine and I will never even think of getting married in the night.

This was the time to be in each other’s arms but not hugging the guests. It was the time to be caressing each other rather than accepting gifts. It was the time to indulge in each other’s love but they were far from doing any of that. They had to wait for one more day to enjoy their FIRST NIGHT. I pity.

I couldn’t stop myself laughing at the mere thought of a song “suhaag raat hai ghoonghat uthaa raha hoon mai…simat rahi hai tu sharmaake apni baahon me”. My friend had to tweak the lyrics a little “suhaag DIN hai ghoonghat uthaa raha hoon mai”.

I had heard about one of my friend getting a muhoortham (auspicious time) after twelve after he got married for his first night. I have no words. For those who believe that weddings are not all about physical intimacy, a healthy relationship does depend on it.

PS: For those of you who expected more after reading the title, I apologize. :-)

25 comments:

  1. Hi Mak

    The title did trigger some curiosity :)

    Well, in some Indian communities people still do this auspicious time search...

    And worse cases are when the promised dowry is not provided the in laws side deliberately postpones the first night as a way of pushing the girls side to make the arrangements for the money!

    Now such cases are lesser but they do happen!

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    1. Hey hi Jaishree, there was no better title than this :)

      I had never thought of such pathetic motive behind pushing the dates far. Cruel people. Hope it stops forever.

      Thank you Jaishree.

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    1. hahahhaha Deepak...my apologies are already sent :)

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  3. well done mak...bt i did expect a lill more :(

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    1. Thank you Alka. I am not eligible to write more on the topic :)

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  4. By looking at Charminar building I thought it is something about your experience (night life) in Hyderabad but I am wrong… its interesting… hope your marriage will not be during night… but still…what if it falls during night…?:D
    Nice post....

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    1. Thanks a lot Dee...
      I would never marry during night :)

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  5. I was hoping for some more details w.r.t the "title" :P .. nonetheless, very thoughtful post and love the Charminar pics :)

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    1. hahahahahah...i can only write about it when i get to experience it. Wait till then Neha :) lol...

      Thanks for stoppin by. It is a pleasure having you here. Always welcome.

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  6. Hahaha.. Good one Mak.. Nice pictures of Charminar.. It seems like u have had a great time.. Urdu is a beautiful language and Hyderabadi movies are so funny.. Used to watch many while I was in hostel..

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    1. Thank you Sonia. Yes i did have a great time. talking in urdu with localites was such fun. I am not used to it. I loved it. people are so sweet, may be the language they speak makes them so.
      Hyderbadi movies are laughing riots Sonia.

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  7. hmmm :) what do i say .. thats why in sikhism all this is not allowed , anyday is good day or NIght :)

    lovely article made me smile nad laugh too :) thank you lovely pictures , I been to hyderabad some 20 odd years ago..

    Bikram's

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  8. I am not surprised, our ceremonies take place during night time and early morning when the girl goes to her in-laws, there are more rituals. So, the first night is the night after the wedding. BTW, when we are single, we go to wedding to look for opposite sex. :)

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  9. Bik - good to know about sikhism. Yeah anyday must be a goodday or night ;) must not be made to wait more na
    Thank you. I am glad to have made you smile and laugh.
    Hyderabad would have been more beautiful when you visited. Worth a visit even now but never in summer.

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  10. Saru - for us the wedding ceremonies end by ten or eleven in the night and then its time for the big night :)

    Am still a bachelor and that is why am fond of weddings.

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  11. I was continuously laughing during reading.You have pin-pointed the things you wanted in the whole thing very nicely.And by the way it is just a way of saying right? that first night..who cares if they are left alone at night,morning,afternoon or evening..they have all the worlds time after their wedding :)
    Awesome read :D
    best part as always the P.S.

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    1. I am glad you liked it Alcina.

      Agree that newly wed couple will have loads of time but what matters is the excitement brought in by those beautiful words "first night" which makes it more irresistible :)

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  12. hahah what a topic/title/post :))) very well articulated ... suitably restrained yet expressive

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    1. Thank you Suju.
      Well lack of experience made me restrain :)

      Delighted with your comment. Thanks again.

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  13. nice post Mak and also loved those photographs :)

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    1. Thanks a lot Deb :) I thought you would be excited about the title :) I think you were in a hurry to read this :)

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